I DON’T HAVE A TYPE, I HAVE STANDARDS.

Over the weekend, I saw a show where people come to air their opinions on topics and there was one that really caught my attention and got me thinking as you all know, I can think for the whole world. LOL


The concept of having a TYPE in a relationship is really something that has been on over the years but I want to believe it’s just an idea we all decide to glow with. While having a certain type of woman or man you’re attracted to or want to be in a relationship with is not a bad idea, I honestly think it has to do with patterns. You dated a fair, slim guy/ girl and you did it for 3 consecutive times so you just decide that’s the type of person you’re attracted to, it’s stuck in your head and that’s it.


When I started this relationship thingy, I always tell myself it’s TALL, DARK AND BEARDED. I really do not mind if he’s chubby but he has to be taller than I am, dark and of course, beard geng!

Well, I had one of the best relationship and longest with a man who was not too dark and had no beards as least not as much as I liked it, I’ve also dated a guy that was of the same height as I was back then and we had a very beautiful relationship. 

So, is tall, dark and bearded a type that I imagined in my head and it stuck. Keeping it in mind that I wouldn’t have had some memorable moments in my life if I had stick with that idea without trying something else out.

I’ve come to the conclusion that “I DON’T HAVE A TYPE, BUT I HAVE STANDARD” Yes, I do.. I have criteria I look out for before dating or even being friends with anyone. Standards like mutual respect, kindness, loving because of course I don’t want a one sided relationship and of course, intelligence. I definitely can’t be with someone who’s not smart, I want to learn from you as much as you’d do from me.


Do you think you have a TYPE? If yes, what’s your TYPE? 

I’d love to hear from you. 

LOVE 🦋🦋🦋🦋🦋🦋🦋

Comments

  1. ayokunlebrooklyn13 May 2024 at 04:28

    Nice piece of write up as always. A lot of us have in our heads what TYPE of person we dream to spend time with but in reality,one or two other factors don't always make that come to pass. In my own understanding, it just shows our imperfections as humans and a need to understand and make the best of our imperfections.
    Living life didn't come with a MANUAL,we just have to make the best of every moments and do what works for us within a set STANDARD.

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  2. Dre_Gucci13 May 2024 at 04:54

    Nice piece. As for me, I've gotten to a point in my life where I no longer care about looks or lemme say physique generally. I'm into personality now. Be presentable, smart, outspoken, don't just accept any view or any perspectives, be critical, loving and caring. Lastly be intentional

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  3. Regardstohealth15 May 2024 at 13:06

    Speaking of types, funny to think i've actually never been with my perfect type, there's just always something to compromise with. But let me add, i was naive and unsure. With how much experience i've gathered now😌 i most assuredly have a list of top must have features which is uncompromisable. With experience and growth comes wisdom. Let me add that i used to have the mindset that opposites do attract but not anymore. I'm more comfortable with someone who thinks alike, shares the same values and believes and, is from the same background (a Yoruba Angel)😍 in that way i don't have to worry too much about making certain adjustments.

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